The Official "Support Lexi" (and others affected) Thread

[Jwb]

Good point. I wonder how that worked out for Anne in the end. I haven't read the book yet so I'll ask you kindly not spoil it.

[Lexi Darling]

I don't think Guybrush or Trollheart meant to imply that me having outlets for occupying my mind and having positive things to channel my energy into would be things that would be able to help stop the legal anti-trans violence happening on government policy level and I certainly didn't read their posts as such.

I can do multiple things at once. I've been working again to bring in some extra money, buying more medications as a buffer, I'm active in a LGBT mental health discord server providing advice and support to others in this situation, I have a consultation for my bottom surgery next Monday, etc. I'm trying my best to keep surviving and I'm not going to give up. But having avenues of levity and creativity is still helpful for my mental health and I appreciated the suggestions.

[Lexi Darling]

https://bsky.app/profile/erininthemorning.com/post/3lg7qwpaewk2u

One day in and we're already getting legally enshrined discrimination against trans people on the table, removal of our recognition by government organizations and cutting of federal funding toward any organization that acknowledges us (which will undoubtedly be used to come after clinics). None of this makes any positive contribution to society, it only serves to make less than 1% of the population's lives a living hell.

I have a changed gender marker on my ID, but not my birth certificate, and I have an appointment meant to change it on my passport in 9 days. Who knows if they'll even let me now. I could be breaking the law by just existing.

And for a trans person I'm probably pretty high on the scale of privilege. I don't have to work or go out in public all that much if I don't want to. My heart bleeds for all my trans brothers, sisters and everyone who live in red states, who have government jobs, we are all now living in a world where our own government has a policy of hostility toward us in most aspects of public life.

My husband and I are going to be trying our damnedest to get out of this rotting country as soon as possible. Fuck, if they come after gay marriage next, he won't even legally be my husband anymore.

If you support Trump or agree with this executive order, kindly do not reply to me, or you can put me on ignore. I have to set some personal boundaries and I don't wish to honor those who support such draconian abuse of my rights with my time and engagement.

To everyone who has shown me support and kindness these past 2 years, thank you all so much, once again. The fascist government does not define who I am, and I will continue to defy them until my last breath. I will not allow them to break me.

Yours truly,

- Alexandria

[Guybrush]

I'm sorry things are the way they are, @Lexi Darling 😢 I wish it was different 🫂

[Trollheart]

Yes, this is what I feared. They say the US will only recognise two genders, male and female, and unfortunately you can bet the Radical Christian Right and all their buddies will be like "Oh! Oh! But if a man and a man (sorry Lexi, you know I don't mean it that way) get married then how can that be legal?" And then Trump and the Supreme Court and Congress all nodding gravely.

Sadly, yes, I do think your best option is to leave the land of the once-free behind you, do as Jesus said, shake the dust off your soles as you leave, and never look back. I can't even begin to imagine what trying to exist as any sort of minority in the US is going to be like now that the fat orange cunt is back in the chair. My heart goes out to you - wait a minute! What's this I read in the paper?

Oh no!

[Auroras In Ice]

Horrible to hear this Lexi. One of my trans friends is in a very similar situation with a family and limited resources in the rural part of a red state so moving would be very difficult and then the next question is where to go that will be safe and accessible? Many nations are on a similar trajectory and what's happening there will be like rocket fuel for that, especially here in Canada which is only half a step behind the US down this awful path. Really hoping that non-shitty people come together in solidarity to push back and protect attacks on people who are being scapegoated by these fascist fucks.

[degrassi.knoll]

Why is it always white people talking about fleeing the country? Smdh.


Viva la révolution, coños. There are so many people with less doing more.

[Trollheart]

It's got nothing to do with her colour. It's her gender that's impelling her to have to emigrate. I can't understand how you don't get that if you've read any of her posts. Black, white, yellow, red, doesn't matter: Trump's an equal opportunities racist, homophobe and bigot. We don't have a fucking clue.

[degrassi.knoll]

I don't know what gives you the impression I don't have a clue?

[Trollheart]

I said we, including me. What I mean is, anyone who is straight has not got a clue what people like Lexi and others are facing. I still don't understand - unless I misread or misunderstood - your comment on "white people"? I imagine Lexi is white but that really doesn't come into it; it's the Trump administration's intended denial of her human rights to be who she wants to be that's spurring her departure, so her colour doesn't matter.

If I got your comment wrong, please do set me straight, because this isn't the sort of thing I expect to read from you. You're normally very supportive of "minorities" so I do think I misread something.

[degrassi.knoll]

I'm not straight, not that it's any of your business. I don't think I need to spell out my credentials to you either, but I can say with certainty I'm a lot closer to any of this than you are. Stay in your lane.

[Trollheart]

You still don't explain what you're talking about with white people. You're right: your orientation or sexual choice is none of my business, nor am I interested in it. But this thread was set up to help and support those who would be affected by the new administration's sweeping changes, including Lexi who has to flee her home country. So I don't get your comment, is all. What has this got to do with "white people"? You can at least clear that up for me.

And please don't tell me to stay in my own lane. I'm quite aware I have no stake in this nor does it affect me, but it does affect my friends and that's why this thread is here. I'm not trying to set myself up as some sort of saviour, SJW or white knight. Read the OP and you'll get why I made the thread. Your comment confuses me. Your original one, that is.

[Jwb]

It's got nothing to do with her colour. It's her gender that's impelling her to have to emigrate. I can't understand how you don't get that if you've read any of her posts. Black, white, yellow, red, doesn't matter: Trump's an equal opportunities racist, homophobe and bigot. We don't have a fucking clue.

Trump isn't an equal opportunity bigot,  nor is it obvious that trans people are the top group who are going to face direct persecution.  Discussions about Healthcare or rules regulating things like sports or prisons are one thing.  But illegal immigrants are the people who they're talking about maybe using the military to round up by the millions.  There's no telling the extent to which they will possibly go,  but if they went with the stated objective you are approaching ethnic cleansing levels of displacement.

 Also, even beyond any of that,  people are talking about the rise of fascism this and the next Hitler that.  You can't possibly believe that while simultaneously acting like the coming of the 4th Reich is going to be confined to policing bathrooms and trans Healthcare. It's completely detached from reality and made extra ironic coming from a foreigner who has even less stake in the game than we do.

[degrassi.knoll]

You're right: your orientation or sexual choice is none of my business, nor am I interested in it.

Damn it sure seemed to matter a minute ago when you were invalidating my opinion because you thought I was straight..

But this thread was set up to help and support those who would be affected by the new administration's sweeping changes, including Lexi who has to flee her home country. So I don't get your comment, is all. What has this got to do with "white people"? You can at least clear that up for me.

Being able to "flee" - which is an (alarmist) choice that requires an amount of privilege and access not afforded to the majority of the most oppressed communities in this country - is itself an opportunity afforded only to higher scale socioeconomic demographics. Aka people with more privilege than others. Aka white people. This is not a controversial take.

Lexi herself acknowledged the amount of privilege that allows emigration to  be an option.

Any time a political leader is elected that one side or the other disproves of, there is a common sentiment that "if x then I'm leaving this country." I have seen it in every election cycle. It's only white people that think of that shit as an option. Don't you think more Black people, or down low gay people in the Midwest, or people being poisoned by their drinking water would just flee if it were that easy? Ffs.

And please don't tell me to stay in my own lane. I'm quite aware I have no stake in this nor does it affect me, but it does affect my friends and that's why this thread is here. I'm not trying to set myself up as some sort of saviour, SJW or white knight. Read the OP and you'll get why I made the thread. Your comment confuses me. Your original one, that is.

Would you prefer if I say you're out of your element? I am literally the "others affected" to whom you purport to offer support. I do have a stake in this. I am affected.  How hypocritical.

[Lexi Darling]

I'm going to attempt to leave the country because it's legally and medically precarious for me to be here and because I have connections to Australia; my sister is a citizen there, so I could apply for a family visa, and my husband is skilled and more likely to be eligible for a work visa if that would be quicker or easier.

I don't want to play oppression Olympics here, I recognize that I have a great degree of comparative privilege, which I pointed out in my post. There exist some potential opportunities to leave the country that we might be eligible for, so we're going to be investigating them. My phrasing probably did come off as alarmist and undermining of those who don't have the opportunities and resources afforded to me by my privilege. This household has decided to pursue those opportunities as soon as we are able in the event that things get way worse for people like me in the US (which this EO could very easily lay the groundwork for) and I feel confident in that decision. It is very much a preemptive move, and one my sister, my husband and I have been in regular contact talking about for a couple months before this EO even happened.

You are free to think it's an overreaction, I understand. I agree that my wording on the subject of leaving the country was overly dramatic. It's hard for me to not to be overwhelmed with emotion sometimes when writing posts. I'm sure it made me come off as a bougie bitch. That is a recurrent character flaw of mine and I probably should have just shut my mouth about the plan to leave.

TH, I appreciate you going to bat for me. I do want to make it clear that I understand where Degrassi is coming from and that I have no ill feelings toward her pointing out what she did.